Monday, February 17, 2014
how To Tell If He Cares
Are you dating someone you are crazy about? Do you wonder if he cares? How can you tell? What are the signs?
As a dating coach, I often hear stories from people about how they were in love with someone who did not love them back. The one they obsessed about said, "I like you very much but I don't feel 'that way' about you. But I'd like to be friends."
If that ever happens to you, thank the person for their honesty and move on. There is little chance of a future with this person but one of heart ache. To hang out in a relationship like this, hoping that once the person knows you better, they will change their mind, is being unkind to yourself. Remember this: there are lots of other singles just waiting to meet you. But if you bury yourself in a relationship going nowhere, they can't find you.
Here are ten signs that tell you if he cares:
* He calls.
He calls and emails often. He wants to talk to you and tell you what he's doing. He asks about your day. He loves the sound of your voice.
*His friends know who you are.
When you meet them, they know your name. You can tell by the way they treat you that he has said good things about you. They are very kind and friendly.
* He blushes easily around you.
He's a little bit nervous, wanting to take care of you and wanting you to have a good time wherever you go with him.
* He asks you where you would like to go for dinner.
He wants to know which movie you'd like to see and how you'd like to spend Saturday night.
*He lingers at your door.
He doesn't want to say good night.
* He thinks your stories and jokes are funny, even if no one else thinks so.
He listens when you talk and asks questions. He remembers details from your other conversations. He laughs at everything you say, if you are trying to be amusing.
* He loves the way you dress and compliments you on how you look.
He notices if you change your hair style. He admires your taste. He thinks you look terrific.
* He wants to meet your family.
He asks questions about all of them and likes to hear your family stories.
* He is sad if you are upset.
He is even sadder if you have to go out of town. He emails and calls every day that you are away.
* He does caring things for you.
He cooks dinner for you sometimes, helps you clean up your house, walks your dog, or feeds your cat and changes the litter box. (If he changes the litter box, he definitely cares about you.)
Here are the danger signs that he is someone to stay away from:
* He wants to borrow your car or your money
* He says the same flattering things to other women that he says to you.
* He only gives you his cell phone number and he won't tell you where he lives.
* He won't hang out with you during the day or in public places. He only wants to come over to your place.
*He tells you he loves you on the first or second date and he wants to move in.
If you are still confused about whether your love interest cares about you, introduce him to your family and friends and ask for their opinion. And remember: you deserve to be adored.
Posted by N at 2:53 AM